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A quick hello to my blog readers (I know there's at least one!).

Things have been busy, and tiring as of late. I can't complain though. I have a job (as tedious and meaningless as it may feel sometimes), I don't have swine flu (though, when I first heard about the possible "pandemic" I instantly thought about my mom and her awful experience with a 1976 swine flu vaccine, then wondering how much of this a result of 24-hour news casts and the fact that 1000's of people die every year from the flu (non-swine-type)), my boyfriend is coming home from a business trip in an hour and that really...things could be worse, and I'm fairly content.

I've been working diligently on staying caught up in my classes. This is a feat of some sort so far seeing how a) my classes aren't terribly interesting and b) including commute time, i spend about 45 hours a week doing my work thing. I'll be interested in my final grades this semester. So far, all As. As long as I don't mess up finals?

It's a weird feeling to be in a house where 2/5 have a job, and that you're 1/2 of that minority. Ethan and I are very lucky, and are making a decent income. Google laid off people in his department, so happy for him he shouldn't have to worry about another round of lay-offs for awhile. I digress, it's weird to be 2/5 people who have to wake up at 7AM (..and try to get to sleep before midnight). I can't tell if I'm resentful or annoyed, but the situation drives me crazy. The "let's do shots!!!!!!" yell at 11:45pm on a Tuesday night isn't my favorite thing to hear.

My brother came to visit this weekend, and I had a really nice time seeing him. I liked that he got a little (and perhaps strange) glimpse into my everyday life. I hope he had fun, I drug him to touristy places, fed him some tasty food and maybe a little too much whiskey. Pictures to be posted of our SF trip soon! Thanks again for visiting, Seth!

I've been playing WoW a little too much the past few days while Ethan is gone. For some reason, I can only lay in bed at 7pm and eat popcorn when he isn't here. Not that'd he'd mind much, it's just a 'private' thing...I guess? :)

That's all for now. Goodnight!

“If you wait to do everything until you're sure it's right, you'll probably never do much of anything.”

Every day, is brand new. There's so much potential in a 24 hour period; but, for the most part, we all do pretty much the same thing everyday.

I wake up between 7:15-7:30am.
Drop my boyfriend off at the train station by 8:30am.
Get to work by 9am.
Work until 4:30(ish)pm.
After 4:30pm, there's a little variance between: I pick up my boyfriend from either the work or train, go home and make dinner, watch tv/play video games/do homework, have a beer, go to sleep.

I'm struggling with the normalcy of it all. I have a good life, a happy life, and I'm beyond lucky. It's just not what I'd ever planned for myself (that's to say I'd ever planned anything at all). I guess at some point I sort of expected my self to live "outside the box", or something. The idea that I live a quiet, domestic life isn't a bad one. Just, a little odd still in my mind.

I mentioned these things to Ethan, and he suggested we 'experiment' with life a little. Not to say, cocaine or wild orgies, but just breaking out of the routine we're so (a little disconcertingly) used to. When he mentioned this, my gut thought (which is usually what I always say, too) was "..How?". What? Where? I was so confused to where I'd even start. I still am today. I need to learn to live, a little. Be okay with knowing that some things I try I'm not going to enjoy. Other things might keep me out of the house too late. Some things might make me late for other things. Some might be scary. I'm almost 23, and I'm not living that way. So, perhaps I'll try.

What will I do? I have no idea. Baby steps, I imagine..

More to blog later on Meredith's existential crisis 2009 later.

“Death is terrifying because it is so ordinary. It happens all the time.”

My mom has been urging me to write my thoughts lately. I've wanted to, or even needed to, but my will and motivation has been low.

Let me preface my words; I've been having an existential crisis for about two months, maybe less. The kind of crisis that consumes about 75% of my day. The kind where I evaluate every moment, interaction, word and person I come across with the anxiety and fear that death will take these things away from me.

Anyway, I was listening to NPR a day or two after the inauguration on my morning commute. I remember, very clearly, sitting about a mile before my exit in bumper to bumper traffic. I wasn't annoyed by the traffic, since I had a cup of coffee and 20 minutes. A blurb about pollution in the United States came on. The conclusion of the story was, "pollution rates have decreased in the past 10 years (good news), extending the average lifespan by 8 months (also good news)."

I panicked. The thought ran through my head, over and over like a ten-ton truck over a helpless body: "I'm going to die someday". I couldn't feel my legs, I was shaking, I had to quickly relearn how to accelerate my car. The thought and feelings settled while I sat in the parking lot, but had by no means dissipated in time from me to start work.

Every since that moment, I haven't really been the same.

I'm not sure why it was that 30 second news broadcast that made me realize my mortality. But, it did. And I'm also unsure to why it felt real, where other indicators of death and dying had seem to exclude me and my loved ones from being human. But it had. I've been spending every day since trying to understand what it means to me. This includes analyzing every thought, feeling and emotion I have. I stare at people, and wonder when it will be there time, who it'll effect, and will they be ready. When I do this to friends and family, I almost puke. The thought of losing them is a more grief that i can currently comprehend in thought; the actuality of it would destroy me. It doesn't make any sense to me, why we're born to die, but the fact is that it doesn't have to make sense.

I keep looking at the world, my world, like it's a game now. We can choose the rules, who we want to play with, and how we can cheat. How we lose, though, is inevitable.

There are a lot of tangents that I can go off on. I'll try to stick to the point. I have more words that I have time right now.

Back on point. I'm scared. Terrified. Anxiety ridden about how/when I meet my demise. That scares me more than almost anything. If it's tomorrow; fuck. My life has been a wasted one. You can try to argue with me that no life is wasted, how every day is a gift, etc. Honestly though I'm just now figuring out who am I, what I like, and what I want to do in my game. If I knew tomorrow was my last day, I'd be sorely disappointed.

I'm more scared about losing someone I love. My family. I'm not quite sure I can even articulate my emotions when thinking about such a thing.

I think I need to stop here, my thoughts are getting fuzzy again. I'll be back here soon to type more words, that may or may not be coherent thoughts about how I'm feeling about the past month.

one year

it's an interesting time for me this part of january, where i'll be hitting a lot of 'one year' marks. i've lived in california for a year now. which means living with ethan for a year, in this house, in this city. 

soon, very soon, it will be my year-mark at work. 1/23/08 was my hire date. it's nice to think i've stuck around there that long, and to think about how much i've learned, and the progress i've made. i like that.

next week will be my second year at my school here. it was a year ago i was excited and terrifed to be taking classes again, wondering if i'd do well, scared to think about how i'd balance my brand-new californian lifestyle. 

i think it's all gone pretty well. i like 'year-marks', anniversaries. 

i renamed my blog, it seemed to suit it better. i tend to write these at night, when ethan is asleep - and i'll never forget him rolling over, annoyed, asking me "can you please type less vigorously?". and no, i can't :)

more "plz to vote" spam.

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If you want to check and see if you're registered, or want to download a voter registration form you can go here.

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Remember, today will have to physically bring in your registration as it's too late to get it post marked. Find your local office!

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Thanks for letting me spam! Happy voting!

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John McCain's Dirty Little Secret

Who would have thought Sen. McCain has no respect for woman? Oh, wait.

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O....RLY?

So excited.

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McCain-Palin Rally Attendees: "Obama is a terrorist" (VIDEO)

Off topic...but interesting (and terrifying) to watch.

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Long time no blahg

It's been awhile.. let's catch up!

Ethan and I went to Vegas. That was fun. We'd both never been before, so we spent most of trip being bewildered and walking around. And drinking. I had a lot of fun sleeping into the day and being up all night..and getting dressed up. I bought a bunch of Vegas clothes that I probably will never wear again. And shoes..ow. I feel silly wearing the shoes I did in a city where you walk everywhere. We went over two months ago, and I still have the blister scars on my feet.. yikes!

What else...oh! We also celebrated our one year anniversary on the 23rd of August. That made me really happy. We went and saw a free Gin Blossoms concert in Santa Cruz. I got Ethan a garlic holder. He got me roses, coffee and the Sunday paper in bed; I was a very happy girl that weekend.

Either shortly before or after I started classes, I'm in my fifth week now. Wow! I'm taking some interesting courses, though as they're still GEs, not as interesting as I'd like. Developmental Pysch, Human Sexuality, Art Composition and Writing. I would never admit to my dad or brother that I like writing a lot. I'm still very far from being any good at it...but something about it makes me really happy. So far classes are going well. I still don't know how much I liked this semester business, I feel like it's midterms time already but really I'm only about 1/4 in. I'm thinking about doing online sexuality (some part of) for my human sex presentation and paper...if anyone has good ideas of what my focus should be, let me know!

I had a couple strange things happen over the course of the last few months. Not related, but within myself.

First, I realized that the birth control pill I was taking caused me to become super depressed/anxious/moody. I had never, ever felt so bad in my life. I've suffered from different variations of depression before in my life, but this was a whole new beast. For about two months I was not myself. I was crying all the time, I couldn't tolerate people at all (which wasn't very good for my job or my relationship), and really hated myself. I was waking up at 3AM and crying for hours, and had these horrible thoughts running through my head. This was also around the time I'd quit smoking, so for the first few weeks I thought I was just withdrawing really bad. Long story short, I stopped taking it, and within a week I felt like myself again. I'm not really sure how people put up with me!

Secondly, everyone other day when I'd check facebook or myspace I'd see a girl around my age declaring her engagement/marriage/pregnancy/birth. This was blowing my mind. I spent a lot of time in the last couple months evaluating my thoughts toward marriage. My conclusion thus far is this: Marriage is something I don't understand. Not to say I think it's bad, or people shouldn't do it. It's just outside my grasp of comprehension. Especially for people my age (22ish). Here's my thought process...let's say I did understand marriage, and wanted to do it. Well, I'm 22. I'm going to change a LOT within the next 10 years. I've changed a lot in the last 9 months. Yes, it's easy to say and feel you love someone forever. However, you change, they change...what's important to you now may not be in 10 years. What you like about this person may not be attractive to you in 10 years. Whatever, you get my point. Again, my caveat is if you are 22 and married, engaged, I'm not knocking it...especially if you're happy. I'm just saying it's not for me. Okay, onto the point of "Why do people get married?". When I first thought I was falling in love I asked my friends and family what love meant to them. I like people's perspectives on things. So, I've asked the majority of my close friends and family what their thoughts on marriage are, and why they think it's something we do. To sum it up, I mostly got the answers, "It's what people expect you to do when you're in a committed relationship.", "Tax breaks, insurance, etc...", "If you want to have children, you should be married." Fair enough, though, I still don't understand the point. That being said, I don't understand the point of having babies...but I'm not one to say I will never be a mother. I've learned about the "maternal instinct", and I assume the "marriage instinct" might be there too. Just, right now, at this point in my life, I don't get it. To put this in context: I live with my boyfriend. We are incredibly committed to each other, perhaps to the point of co-dependence (not in the drug way...and I'm kidding anyway ;)). I love him very much, and he does me. We spend as much time together as possible. I know he'd do anything within his means for me, and I would for him. I don't feel any need to get married to him. I love him, our relationship works, and we trust each other explicitly. I don't see us breaking up anytime soon (or later). But, I don't want to marry him...I feel it would be unfair to at least him, where I'm still very young in terms of knowing what I want, and what I want to do forever. Okay...I could keep going on this, so I think I've made my point and I'll stop. :)

Let's see...tonight I'm going to see Counting Crows! I'm really excited that I get to see both of my  favorite 90's bands within a month of each other. Mr. Jones and meeeeeeeee!

I'll do better (promise!) at keeping this updated, hopefully with more pictures, less semi-nonsensical ramblings. byeee.

Shocking -- but not really.

I've always been curious and a little disturbed by the lack of resources and government spending for health care. Especially mental health care. I worked with mentally disabled adults for almost three years and saw the apathy and how things easily got swept under the rug for the mentally disabled who were unable to advocate for themselves. There are many wonderful people who work in the mental health field. It'd be unfair and wrong to say their aren't. However, it is a bit tragic the state of mental institutions in America, and the rest of the world, in my honest opinion.

Anyway, I'm sure many of you have seen this video already. But, wow.

woman dies on hospital floor

And on a happy note..

Today is my four week anniversary of not smoking. I feel fabuloooous!

Dysthymia..

I posted this on a blog I had about a year ago. I still feel like it's something I should share to whomever has stumbled across this blog. As you read this, remember that I'm honestly not a miserable person, I'm absolutely not looking for sympathy, and that in the past year I've grown a bit and am learning day by day how important it is to take good care of me and my mental health. I also feel I'm in a much better place in life than I was last year around this time. I will probably always feel this way, but I'm learning how to function and try to be as happy as I can with what I already have. I really just feel as this is one public forum I feel comfortable discussing such a thing in, I should take advantage and inform people of this thing I'd never heard of until a few years ago.

Ever since I can really remember, I've never been happy. Now now.. this isn't me writing to get sympathy or have anyone think "Aww, poor girl". Really. I just want to talk about it for a minute. There are many kinds of mental illnesses. We've all heard about depression, anxiety and probably bi-polar disease and schizophrenia. And I'm sure everyone at some point in their life has really been in the dumps and felt like they couldn't crawl out with all their might. Depression hits everyone. Life isn't perfect..etc etc.

I've seen a few counselors, psychiatrists and doctors concerning my unhappiness before. What would happen would be this. I would be really sad, would make an appointment.. go for a few appointments, get prescribed some pills and after a month or so I would feel better and wonder why I even bothered. I know other people who have done this too. I would assume you know at least one person who has been on anti-depressants before. I've been diagnosed with depression all those times. One day, a doctor told me a new word that kind of meant the same thing. Dysthymia? He explained to me what it was, and I said.. "Ahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh......". It made sense for the first time ever. It reminded me of when I found out I needed glasses and thought that everyone had to squint at the board to read it. It also made me feel a little less crazy.

I had never heard of something like this before. Dysthymia. Here's a definition i scrounged up.

Is chronic mild to moderate chronic depression, as opposed to major depression. The DSM-IV mandates the same symptoms as for major depression, except for suicidality, but requires only three symptoms in all, so long as they have persisted over two years. Mild to moderate is a misnomer, as dysthymia can make a person’s life as miserable as major depression.

The way the doctor described it to me was basically like, there is a line, that's "normal", happy, content, whatever. People with dysthymia stay below the line all the time. So relatively speaking that is normal. However, normal sucks. I found that yeah, I feel like shit all the time. I'm generally most happy when I'm lying in bed.. and doing things (making my bed, taking a shower, cooking meals, paying bills) aren't as easy as I feel they should be. I struggle for confidence, worth and self-esteem. I like this description:

Still, we are able to function, a sort of death-in-life existence that gets us out into the world and to work and the duties of staying alive then back to our homes and the blessed relief of flopping into our unmade beds.

All too often, we are told to snap out of it. That the invisible water torture we carry in our heads is our own fault. And shamed into thinking something is wrong with our attitudes, we fail to seek help. Or, if we do, it's our family physician who confuses a very real chemical imbalance in the brain with some imaginary defect in our personality. And so we are sent away with a stupid happy pill such as a tranquilizer (whose depressive effect only adds to our quiet misery).

Some of us turn to the bottle or illegal drugs. Others seek a more permanent solution. Yes, even milder forms of depression can be lethal (experts estimate anywhere from 3 to 12 percent of people with dysthymia cure themselves by suicide).

stolen from here

Most people can articulate better than me. Which is why I have a blog.. to steal other people's good ideas and share them with you!

So I have this..thing. Good, I know what it is and that I'm not necessarily crazy. I know I'll probably have it forever and that basically I need to do whatever I can to make it better. The bad news is I am bad with taking pills. I will get them, take them, then stop because I feel better. Self-destructive? No. Just irresponsible. And cheap. And I am never quite sure if they are working, or if my brain is into the placebo effect. But I can get out of bed, take a shower and try and eat right and exercise. Most of the time this works. By most of the time.. I would say.. 75%.

Then...... it hits. Like a depression on top of a depression. I shut down. Collapse. Contemplate suicide on the rare occasion. Feel hopeless, worthless, incapable of receiving love (from myself or anyone else). I do things that are bad. Not *bad* bad. Just, not good. I don't answer phone calls, I sleep for 16+ hours. I call-in to work or skip school. I don't eat. I smoke. I cry. Etc, you get the point. I do this until I don't. It's fucked up, and I hate it. I hope some day (soon!) I will have developed the skills to stop this before it starts and not let myself get away with it. Luckily, it's been awhile since I've been that miserable.

Every once in a blue moon.. I am happy. Content. I love life and everything about it. Then it goes away.. but for those moments I embrace it..

Most days I fake it (fake it until you make it?). And that's okay for now. I would love to be content on a daily basis. But honestly, to me, that doesn't seem real. Is it real? Or is everyone else faking it too? I hope, pray all the time that there is more to life than this, but until then....

I don't hide behind this, or make it "who I am". It's a part of me.

for anyone who cares to read more

Thanks

Hikin'

I went on a hike this Tuesday. It was sort of an accident.. I really just wanted to get out of the house and be outside. Go to the park? A bike ride? Finally I decided I just wanted to go find some wildflowers and take pictures of them. I thought Pulgas Ridge would be a nice place to go for such a thing, though, I saw few flowers, but went on a four mile hike which turned out to be pretty, right around sundown.

Preview

Fun, pretty times. I liked hiking by myself quite a bit. Me+a camera.. extremely cathartic. Seeing a deer was pretty freakin' awesome, too.

I have an awesome boyfriend..

..whom I love very much. I'm so very lucky.

Ethan and I at the Golden Gate Bridge, SF, CA. 2007

I wanted to share a picture, and I thought it deserved a nice little introduction. :)

Pretty frequently I step back and realize how lucky I am to have Ethan in my life, and am constantly amazed at how easy our relationship has been, as well as daily realizing how much I adore him.

Okay, enough of that for now. Carry on.

my quit smoking blog

i quit!

LOST Season Four Alternate Endings..

SPOILER ALERT!

If you haven't seen the ending.. it won't tell you what happened, but it'll tell you what *didn't* happen..

LOST finale

Was amazing..I love this show.

who else noticed octagon global recruiting ad?

it was toward the end, same days as comic con in san diego. interesting!

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Ron Paul Wins 15 Percent in Oregon

Republican presidential candidate Ron Paul received 15 percent of yesterday's primary vote in Oregon, a state in which he inspired both strong grassroots activism and online support but did not physically visit."Oregonians and Americans are hungry for the leadership that will protect the traditions that made our country so great,"...I'm so proud.

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papers, finals, slacking.. oh my!

I have 3 papers and 2 finals for next week. I feel like normally, I'd be stupidly stressed and driving people around me crazy. For some reason, after spring break I put myself into auto drive and just went with it. I feel okay about how I've done the past two months. I've got my assignments done, well, and on time. Did my reading for the most part, didn't go to class only a few times when I had the stomach flu and when Ethan would have a day off in the week. I didn't stress, I just did. I guess I'll find out next week what kind of grade that gives me.

Anyway, I stayed home from going to see the new Indiana Jones movie to do some homework:



Though, I know by the end of the night I'll distract myself with what I'm doing now (putzing around on the internets)

Playing Sim City on the DS..

or crocheting..

Aieeeeeee..

Next week at this time I'll be on summer vacation. I'm happy for the break, but anxious about the "what next". I know I don't want to work part-time on the weekends and spend my weekdays doing nothing. I should work full-time, on the weekdays. Then again, my summer will last about 2 months then I'd be looking to work part-time again. What to do? Must figure it out soon.

Next Friday I'm going to participate in a brain study at Stanford. I'm mostly doing it for the $20/hr they pay.. but a bit for my love of psychology and also just for something to do.

Ah! If anyone in the Bay Area reads this and makes things and likes free food TechShop is having an open house on Saturday, May 31st from 10-5. I'll be there after 1:30 giving tours, etc. It's a cool place to make things. I don't get paid to say this, I honestly think people should know how cool it is :)

Okay, off to *not* slack, but do grown-up things.